You are Enough

Ever feel like you aren't enough? You can't get enough done, your run yourself to death and accomplish nothing. The house is never clean, the car is never clean, there is always a pile of laundry, the daily "to do" lists never get checked off, your child ate a (gasp) hot dog for lunch, and you feel defeated at the end of the day. If you are a woman I am sure you feel this way at times. I won't direct this at working moms, work at home moms, or stay at home moms. From talking to my friends, who are new mothers, seasoned mothers, and not moms at all, has shown me that as women we are over achievers. We feel responsible for keeping things clean, making things pretty, cooking fabulous meals, and keeping our households together. Through social media we are exposed to the parenting styles and life styles of others and we constantly compare ourselves to them. You have the crafty Pinterest moms, who make you wonder who has time for that. Then there are the mom's with the body of a model a week after giving birth, that has to be credited to good genetics. Gag me. You've got the mom over there talking about how she'd never give her child anything with high fructose corn syrup, food coloring, and heaven forbid they eat a chemical. There are always controversies over breastfeeding and formula feeding. Then you add family to the equation, always questioning and voicing their unwanted opinion. People are always judging others for their decisions, we feel like we are under constant scrutiny, and the pressure sucks.

I'm fed up with it. There are tons of posts of this nature, I know that. I also know that some of the people that might read this, probably won't read the others. We are designed to lift each other up. Be inspiring, focus on the positive, and give a compliment for Pete's sake (idk who Pete is, but really). Just because someone does stuff different than us, does not make them wrong. As long as we are trying our best and abiding by the laws that are in place to protect our children, I think we are doing pretty well. As long as are kids are fed, clothed, cleaned, and loved, we are winning.

This mommy thing isn't easy. I have learned that if the "to-do" list isn't checked off, just roll it over to the next day. Toys are probably going to be a constant in the family room so just deal with it, the home decorating can come later. Pretty sure our furniture will need to be burned by the time my lil guy is finished peeing, spilling, and spitting on it. The laundry will never all be done, so why try. Just wash and fold a load or two a day. The house will never be clean, take it a room at a time. When you finish the last room, its time to start over on the first one.  A juice box won't kill my son, neither will ice cream sandwiches...in moderation. I have surrendered to the previous. If he eats some dirt, or maybe even a rock, he will survive. TV won't ruin him, it's a life saver when mommy needs to do something. However I am chosey about what he watches. Moderation is the mantra at our house.

The point of my ramble is- don't compare yourself to others. Decide what works for you and your family, and do it. Don't push your beliefs on others. Share your knowledge on things you are passionate about, but don't judge others for not seeing it your way.

food for thought- You are only seeing other people's lives as they portray them on social media, the real life they live is probably not that perfect.